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Although PJ's letter appears elsewhere, he thinks it might be helpful here too.

Dear Lorraine

Perhaps I can shed some light for those in wonderment of the fetish side of your life. While I can not convey the thoughts of females, I can however help some of you males better understand your anguish and delight regarding whatever makes you tick and come to attention.

Over the past two to three years I have observed the comments of rainwear affectionadoes in various news groups and forums. I have followed the many comments from those posting in this rainwear forum. My hats off to John for a well run forum. I thought before I turn yet another decade I should make the following observations and comments, regarding a rainwear fetish. Please do not feel slighted in any way if none of my comments fall into your category, as fetishes can be so broad in scope it is difficult to put everyone in same slot.

Most fetishes start somewhere in childhood, even prior to any memory you may have regarding your fetish. Your choice of material in your rainwear may even reflect the era you were born in. For instance if you were born in thirties and forties it is most likely that you enjoy rubber, if you were born since say the mid fifties you most likely enjoy vinyl or some form of plastic. In the case studies I have researched regarding fetish for rainwear, the commonality appears to be in infancy - the wearing of rubber diaper or vinyl diaper pants. Again this may reflect your age and the material of choice as a child. Also the use of rubber or vinyl bed sheets might have a relationship here.

Now keep in mind that those born in the thirties and forties and even in the fifties were raised to believe that masturbation was forbidden. Even in the thirties the psychology books of that era treated masturbation as a mental disorder - even claiming that those indulging to excess would wind up in mental hospitals. The teaching of those days suggested caregivers assiduously discourage children from masturbation in order to alleviate mental disorders.

The end result of the child rearing in this era was that children became very guilt-ridden regarding any sexual stimulation.

Now we know for the most part that children touching their private parts is quite normal, albeit some children may still be discouraged from any form of touching even today.

I was born in the rubber era as I call it. Therefore my fetish is for rubber rainwear as that is what was around for me as a child. My mother had a rubber raincoat that I dearly loved to touch and wear whenever the opportunity arose. However I was quite careful not to reveal the stimulation that happened as a result of contact with this raincoat.

At age five when starting school I was presented with a tartan rubber-lined cape to wear for my long walks to school. I was severely scolded on days when I left home without my cape on a day when rain was present or threatening.

I dearly love to wear to wear this cape but developed a love/hate relationship as the years went on. This was because for some unknown reason children protecting themselves from the rain were teased as 'sissies' (really quite silly when you think about it).

Up until age fourteen or so I had several rubber raincoats of different colours and styles - all purchased for me to wear to school. But soon rubber disappeared from the market place and vinyl took its place. While saddened by the loss of the rubber style rainwear I soon transferred my affections for rainwear to vinyl. In my teens I again had several styles of vinyl rainwear issued to me but I soon took to wearing these things mostly in private. To satisfy my mother I did take them to school but mostly I kept folded in my school bag. I was very fearful of someone actually attributing any sexual stimulation to the fact I was wearing a vinyl raincoat (- this is also quite silly to think back on).

You see I was a bed wetter and was well past the usual age before overnight bedwetting stopped. I was made to wear wear rubber pants and had to have a rubber sheet on the bed. I have no very vivid recollection of the rubber pants, but do to this day recall the rubber bed sheet on my bed. I clearly remember having erections while lying on this sheet and also the smell is still in memory. For those of later years whose love is for vinyl you have most likely (but not necessarily) experienced similar feelings with vinyl pants and bed sheet.

For far to many years I lived with guilt and shame regarding wearing rainwear, and was ensconced in the closet, wearing rainwear only in private or out and about after dark, or in a mad dash to the mail box hoping no one would see me.

I was well into my thirties when I made a conscious effort to discard this shame and guilt regarding rainwear. Over time I told my story to my present wife, at first when talking of my love of rainwear and how it stimulated me. I was shaking to begin with, but soon - and together - we had it put into perspective, and thankfully my guilt is totally gone. Today my wife enjoys wearing my rainwear and we enjoy it together.

I just love to go out and about in my rainwear of many styles and quite enjoy my wife being with me similarly clad. When you think about it most people do not give it a second thought when they see you dressed for rain.

Have you ever watched a baby cling on to their blanket in particular the satin part? Well, it's a good chance that those babies will have a strong liking for satin and similar materials as they grow up. This is a direct parallel to those of us that can relate our fetish to childhood and the love of having rubber or vinyl close to us!

I would encourage any rainwear lover to somehow share their feelings over time with their partner. This is no different from sharing any other form of fantasy with your partner. Remember though that your partner will need reassurance that your fetish is not the top priority but merely an enhancement of your enjoyment together.

If you get rid of the guilt and shame, life will be better! I believe a high percentage of people of this world have some form of fetish. Your secret of rainwear fetish should not go to the grave with you... ENJOY!!!

The above, I should say, is based on agood deal of reading and research. If the theories I have suggested seem not to apply to you, bear in mind that quite often there may some latent thoughts somewhere in a small corner of your brain relating to early experience and your fetish of today. THE BRAIN IS ONE COMPLICATED PIECE OF OUR BODY AND IN OUR TIME WE MAY NEVER UNDERSTAND IT ALL.

Well your thoughts or e-mail are welcome! Please don't flare up though if you do not agree. Fetishes are quite complicated,!

I have just tried in a small way to help people in the rainwear fetish world to get on with enjoying life: preferably dressed in your nicest raincoat, out and about with pride!

PJ pjmcdon@hotmail.com

Dear PJ

Thank you for this.

I have had a thought though!

The thought is that it can't be more than half right, or else everyone who slept on cotton without a safety sheet as a child would have a fetish for cotton!

I think myself there must be something about rubber (especially in the form of mackintosh!) which makes it so adorable.

LE